9 empowering Tips & Techniques for your angry child

Too often our children fly off the handle and don’t know how to control themselves. It is not that they do not want to be able to regulate their reaction, often they simply do not know how.

Children need to know that there are rules for dealing with Anger. Everyone gets angry at times, but that we all have to learn to be the boss of anger, and not let anger be the boss of us.

Here are some great techniques you can teach your kids to help them deal with their anger in healthy ways:

1. Taking a deep breath in and breathing out slowly.

2. Waiting until they feel in control and can speak in a quiet voice.

3. Saying how and what they feel quietly, without shouting.

4. Physically and mentally walking away from what is make them angry (not running) until they feel calm enough to think what the best thing to do would be.

5. Being careful not to say hurtful things, which they may regret later.

6. Never hitting or hurting themselves, or others.

7. Finding safe ways to release anger — such as screaming into a pillow, squeezing a ball or running around the garden (or another safe place).

8. Counting to twelve slowly in their head before saying anything. Then keep breathing and counting while thinking about what to say or do next.

9. Teaching them to realise that the anger will eventually go away and that they have total control over their feelings.